Forgiveness is one of the most important skills we can learn for a healthy and happy life. These 5 steps point out one of the most common missed steps- and that is to ALSO forgive ourselves.
2017 In this New Year, I am excited about all the things I intend to accomplish. I enjoy making New Year’s resolutions and challenging myself to be able to extend my success further into the year more than I did last year. Though I may not achieve all of the goals that I set, I find I do improve each year.
“That in which you persist in doing becomes easier, not that that task becomes easy but your ability to do increases.”
As I review 2016 I am excited about the big projects I was able to accomplish. Even though I did not accomplish half of what I set out to do, the ones I did accomplish were major improvements over the previous years. I am reminded of a quote that states: “it is better to shoot for the stars and get stuck in the trees; then to shoot for the trees and get stuck in the mud.”
What are your accomplishments for this past year? What are your goals for the coming year? Reviewing the past as you visualize the future are both important elements for balance. Balance in your individual life in public life is much better sustained when in balance. Balance does not mean to be mediocre and do nothing but is about going forward and constantly readjusting. Perhaps if you are perfectly balanced you are not moving enough in life. There is the saying “if you’re not growing you’re dying.”
One thing I want to share is the success in one habit I established this past year for my marriage relationship. At the beginning, I determined to increase my skills in being aware of and expressing appreciation for the good things. What I did for 365 times this past year was to write a sticky note something that I observed or appreciated that my wife had done or something I was admiring about her. As I did this each day and stuck on the bathroom mirror over a month time it would feel up enough that in order to continue to have the mirror available to brush her hair by she would need to remove the sticky notes. About once a month as she put those into a notebook to save the continued process would refill the mirror.
What would you imagine I learned by this daily habit? I can tell you it was much more beneficial than I had imagined. Not just for my relationship with my wife but the personal growth, I feel I have gained. Another quote regarding daily habits is this: “habits are the compound interest of time.”
As I consider replacing this habit with two new wins for the coming year I get excited about the continued improvement of my relationship with my wife and the confidence that will come from the practice of those new habits.
I am curious as to what good habits you have had or are planning to have in order to improve your life and your relationships?